Wednesday Wonderings: blurred lines

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Migraines are the kind of disease people like to discount. It is just a headache, they think. It is just a once a year deal, they think. So when you are chronic and a lot different for you and certainly a migraine is a lot more than a headache, you are still discounted. You can be intractable and disabled but seen as not sick enough to actually be on disability. I’ve seen it. We often hover in that blurred line of disabled and not sick enough, by others, by insurance companies, by doctors… people that matter for our lives. People who don’t listen. People we have no control over. And they randomly choose one and that affects the fate of that migraineur’s Life.

And we walk the blurred line of functional and non-functional. One moment barely function and the very next non-functional. People wonder how we could do something one day and not the next. But the pain of a migraine varies within the migraine. Or can be half treated. And migraines vary themselves. One could be a 7, and you can be barely functional at that. One can be a 9 and you cannot function at all at that. We, though, have to live in the shifting of pain and functionality all the time.

Just as we have to live in the shift of tolerable vs intolerable pain all the time. We have limits to our pain tolerance. We cannot function when we exceed those limits. A 9 migraine is an intolerable pain.  To expect anything from a person in that level of pain is idiotic. Yet, people do. I have had people expect things from me at that level. Forced me to. And I didn’t get far.

But that blurred line between who we are with pain and who we are without it can really haunt us. With it we can be irritable, moody, frustrated, exhausted, confusion, have brainfog, memory issues, concentration problems…. we are fuzzy, zoned out, tired, moody versions of ourselves.  When do we get to see that person we are without the pain? Just a glimpse here and there? And that is the saddest thing of all. I barely know that person. Barely see that person. I am more the person in pain than I am ever without migraine pain.

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